How to Pick Up a Girl in a Bar Successfully
So you are now in the bar, you are all prepared but you don’t know what to do. Let us now discuss the tips on how you start your epic night. Here are some tips on how to pick up a girl in a club without embarrassing yourself:
Tips on How to Pick Up a Girl
a. Sit Down or Hang Out in the Bar
Pick a strategic place in the bar where you can have a good view of most of its areas. This will enable you to acquire a prospective target and it will also allow the girl to easily spot you. Now this is the part where you get your radar working.
b. Assess the Situation
Once your radar picks up a girl, assess her first. Pay attention to how she moves or how she dresses. That would give you an idea if she is outgoing, shy, conservative or wild. A basic logic will do the trick or just let your instincts work on this one.
c. Keep the Eye Contact
Then while looking at her, she suddenly catches a glimpse of you. I don’t know why this happens but it happens. People have the instinct of knowing when they are being watched. Well, let’s stop wondering about that phenomenon and concentrate on the mission at hand. Okay, once she takes a look at you and she stares at you, keep your eye contact. When she smiles at you, gives a bottle’s up or gives any positive gesture. That is a go. Approach her.
d. Talk the Talk
Start with a “Hi” or some cool phrase, and ask her name. If she asks yours too, that means she’s interested. So fire away soldier. Remember to keep the conversation going smoothly. Do not monopolize the conversation though, most girls prefer a listener. Make your conversation two-way, like a question and answer between the two of you. You take turns in talking. Then try not to have a long pause in between your conversation, unless there is something physical going on. To get to the next level, try to get more personal and get your conversation to an intimate level.
e. Do the Touchy Stuff
Once, you reach the peak of your intimacy, start by getting a bit physical like sitting closely with her. Let your skin touch each other gradually. Let your arms touch each other until both of your shoulders get too close. Then follow it up by holding her hand or wrapping her with an arm. If you don’t see any struggle or any negative reactions, that’s a good sign.
f. Get Out of There
Keep the eye contact and the conversation going with some intimate physical contact. Then ask her if she wants to get out of there and check some other place or get to a place more quiet where you could talk and get to know more about each other, like your pad or some motel. If she agrees, your mission is accomplished!
There are many other techniques and factors involved aside from these basic ones. But we will get to an in-depth discussion about that later in our next articles. These methods may not work every time but it surely worked 75%-80% most of the time. Lastly, do not forget to put passion in everything that you do. Confidence, coupled with passion, will get you the reaction that you desire.
To successfully pick up a girl in a bar or in a club, remember the things that are needed for the preparation process. Then once you are at the bar, find a good place to sit down, establish eye contact, talk the talk, start touching and get out of there.